Divorces affect over 1 million kids in America each year. These children often deal with more health, behavioral, educational, and emotional problems. However, this does not have to be your child’s story. There are actions you can take to make this new way of life less stressful for everyone involved.

You might think your child is adjusting to the new normal, only to be surprised by an out-of-character behavior. Doing your part to help your child accept and adjust to the divorce will make a big difference.

Signals Your Child(ren) Are Struggling to Cope with the Situation

  • DivorceBeing sad or crying more than normal. Kids and stress are not friends as they don’t have the skills to navigate all the emotions of divorce. This can cause them to cry for no apparent reason or get extremely upset over something that would usually be of little concern.
  • Argumentative and acting out. Stress can also cause them to get angry or suddenly become the “problem child.” Most likely, it is because they feel out of control, and anger gives them a direction.
  • Become withdrawn. If they start choosing to avoid activities or interests they once had, it may be that they are trying to avoid the divorce.
  • Grades decline. Most likely, the divorce is heavy on their mind, and focusing on school is too much. Study and tests suffer, which only adds another layer of stress.
  • Fears increase. It might show through separation anxiety, fear of going to bed, or worrying that something will happen.

Talking with your child is one of the best approaches in these situations. Let them share their feelings without judgment or belittling. Having open and honest conversations will clear the air and help you find a way to move forward.

Helping your Kids Adjust to a Divorce

  • Be sure they know that they are not the cause of the divorce and both parents love them.
  • Be honest about what is happening but keep it simple and age-appropriate.
  • Don’t play the blame game or share negative things about the other parent.
  • Keep routines as much as possible.
  • Let them know they can be honest about their feelings, thoughts, and fears.
  • Listen more than you talk. Listen actively to what they are saying and what they don’t say.

Divorce is not an easy road to navigate. But it can be one with fewer twists, turns, and valleys if everyone is willing to work together. Thankfully, there are many options available to help make this adjustment easier. One way is by taking advantage of places like Family Alliance Services.  Whether you need a neutral location to hang out with your kids, need a space and an impartial third party, or want a place to meet your former spouse while getting the kids, Family Alliance Services of Pine City, MN, is here to help. Reach out to one of our team members today.